Marriage 101 Pt. 2
3-Tithing is not an option. Tithe! I am completely confident that this act of obedience has charted the entire course of our married life. There is no way around it. During one of the most difficult financial storms of our lives, about to lose everything, we were reminded why we are obedient to Him.
We had made a significant financial investment which took a nose dive with the economy in 2008. He went into a deep depression, fearful of potential financial ruin. As his helpmate, I simply could not stand by and watch him spiral into this sink hole because we are NOT hopeless. All 4’11” of me stood tall, scared to death as I made a declaration that God used to change his mind about the funk he was in. I said, “We started this marriage with nothing and if we lose everything we will still have each other. As long as we have each other we are very wealthy and we’ll just start over.” Not only did this statement give us courage together but I believe it was a pivotal moment that strengthened our marriage vows as well.
That day we made a commitment to each other, before God, that no matter how bad things became, tithing would be our first priority on payday. I call God as my witness, things began to turn around for us, we did not lose our home, we had groceries and the bills were paid. It didn’t add up on paper but somehow we survived. We made the decision to be obedient to God and He honored our obedience.
Tithing is not up for debate. Some practice this principle, others do not feel it is important. Let me be clear, if you do not desire to be a recipient of the abundant outrageous blessings of God, you don’t have to participate. However, you might want to camp out in Malachi 3:6-12
4-love love love! The next principle has taken 26 years to cultivate. It’s been a challenge but our example has been our precious parents. His parents have celebrated 58 years of marriage. They are God fearing people who absolutely know how to love each other. I’ve often said that their picture is beside the word “love” in the dictionary. They are generous, kind & considerate to one another - sounds like something we would read in the Bible.
My parents have celebrated 53 years of marriage. They raised my sisters and me in church and taught us how to be givers, social butterflies and sassy mountain mamas who can put the Word of Truth on you so fast your head will swim! Boom! They taught us how to dream and live out our passion.
There you have four of the many principles that have kept us together for all these years. At the core of it all, Jesus.
“Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.” (1 John 3:18 NLT)
Stay tuned, more marriage 101 to come…
*photo taken at Marriage banquet 2013