I Believe in YOU!
Seven ways to encourage others; whether it’s your friend, someone you’re dating or your spouse.
1-Believe in them! Believe the best in them, for in doing so you are giving them a gift that will last a lifetime. Recently a young lady sat in our living room pouring her heart out to us about her life. I was shaken to the core because of the obstacles she has faced; yet through her pain I saw a person willing to do whatever it takes to rise above her circumstances. I truly believe if anyone can make it, she will and we didn’t hesitate to tell her either. She left that day walking on air. No false hope here, only the affirmation she deserved. We have all been given the freedom to believe in someone who has hit rock bottom. Our believing in her gave her the courage she needs to jump the hurdles and do life.
2-Encourage. Words can build us up or words can tear us down. I think it’s high time to tame the tongue according to James 1. Our tongue has the ability to destroy others if we allow it or we can cheer others on to their finish line and dreams they have established.
“So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11 NLT)
3- Listen, sometimes we just need to shut up and listen! We are too quick to give our input when a person just might need a listening ear, not our words. James 1:19b …”Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry”
4-Invest, infuse, interest! These words not only imply giving someone time, they also come with the opportunity for accountability and relationship building. Since we are breathing we should be investing in someone’s life. In regards to our spouse, who better to pour our time in than our mate? Isn’t it funny, when we were dating we couldn’t see enough of each other. What has changed? Our difference might have pushed us in opposite directions but that is quite possibly the very thing that caused us to pursue one another in the first place, right? When we invest in one another we are infusing one another in growing spiritually.
5-Enjoy. Life is too short so we should learn to enjoy it rather than dread it. Allow me to indulge you in synonyms of the word “enjoy”:
“like, love, be fond of, be entertained by, take pleasure in, be keen on, delight in, appreciate, relish, revel in, adore, lap up, savor, luxuriate in, bask in”. Need I say more?
6-Value I think couples should work on valuing one another more than communication. Yes, to communicate with one another is very important but to see value in one another will bring our communication to a whole new level.
Paul said, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others”. (Philippians 2:3-4 NIV)
7-Embrace If you want to take your relationship to a whole new level, try embracing a person’s differences. No, I’m not saying we should embrace areas of sin in one another, but allowing others the freedom to be themselves is a win win situation. We can’t expect everybody to be like us or only accept those who are like us. What if God allows those who are our polar opposite to become our spouse for our own spiritual character training? Besides that, if we only embrace the lovable then we haven’t really done anything over the top. Embracing the unlovable one gives us the right to minister to them and bring them along in their own journey. It really is not about us.
I urge you to implement these seven principles into your life. Let me know how it goes, I’m always interested in knowing what the Lord is up to in your life. email me firstname.lastname@example.org