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  • Rhonda Love

Real Life!


“I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” (Psalm 27:13-14)

Real life happens to every single one of us regardless of the title we wear or lifestyle we’ve established. Real life comes at us hard and fast, it hits us right between the eyes and sometimes leaves us reeling, wondering what in the world just happened.

In the Spring of 2006, real life happened to our family. Darryl, my husband, had a small seemingly insignificant but suspicious looking mole removed from his ankle. Within 48 hours our world changed when his Dr. called to tell him he had melanoma…

This news came just two weeks after my biopsies and surgeries for suspicious cancer cells. We were numb and glazed over, broke and broken. One well meaning friend ask "why you?" to which Darryl replied "why not me"?

Suddenly everything we’d been stressed out over became insignificant. It no longer mattered that the carpet was dirty, dishes were in the sink and there were no groceries in the house. The only things we focused on was protecting our kids from this devastating news and getting to Chapel Hill for surgery.

Enter Jesus!

Let me mention when Jesus steps on the scene, His Peace calms turbulent nerves and anxious thoughts.

I'll attempt to tell you what He showed me in our crisis:

  1. I can remain confident. The news of “cancer” freaked me out completely. I had seen the affect of it as we had ministered to families dealing with this awful disease. I did not sign up for this and I just wanted the “C” word to go away. I vividly recall sitting on the floor beside my husband, weeping. He made this statement, “we have taught about it and talked about it for years now it’s time we live out what we say we believe”. The lights came on that very moment for me. By Faith! We would get through whatever the outcome would be, by faith. With great confidence I can trust cancer to a Holy God. Nothing is impossible for Him.

  2. I can wait for the Lord. I really needed to know exactly what the word "wait" meant so I researched it. While I was impatiently waiting for Him to wake me from this nightmare I focused on Him, prayed to Him but I was anticipating an instant answer. We aren’t wired to “wait” so we become anxious, we attempt to manipulate Him and eventually we try to take matters in our own hands. We have tied the hands of God again. I also found that waiting doesn’t mean just sitting there doing nothing in hopes that it’ll work out for us. We are to trust Him with hope and expectation. Some scholars say “wait” means to trust, look eagerly for; gather, bind (twist).The Hebrew language is a very pictorial language; the picture behind our word is of strands being gathered and twisted together to make a rope. As each piece of the rope seemingly unravels, He is actually gathering strands, weaving them together to strengthen us at the end of the situation. Sometimes it is woven together quickly. Other times He must gather strands which may take years to resolve the matter completely. The question is: are we willing to wait for His timing?

  3. I can remain strong and courageous. This right here could be challenging, however as one remains in the Word, strength and courage are released in us spiritually, emotionally and physically.

The outcome? God and Chapel Hill did an outstanding job removing the melanoma. After retrieval of lymph nodes determined that the cancer was isolated to the ankle area and skin grafting complete the recover time began. His recovery time is blog worthy in itself because it was a doosey. Six long weeks of caring for the wound three times a day.

The saying “hindsight’s 20/20” is true. We learned to sympathize deeply with those who are living with the “C” word; immediate family, extended family and friends. The knowledge we gained, through our own journey, helped prepare us for the three year intense battle my brother in law would face.

At the end of the day I can honestly say, “it’s not for nothing”.

“I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” (Psalm 27:13-14)

*photo: one of my favorite places at Healing Place Ministries, Inc. The pic doesn't reveal the secret patio nestled away on the otherside of the building. Perfect place for time alone with our Creator.