Breaking up with Rejection
"You will know the truth and the truth will set you free" (John 8:32)
I broke up with a friend, finally! We’ve been on a journey together for awhile; months pass before you show up and every time you leave me broken. Rejection, I am breaking up with you forever. That's right, you have consumed enough of my energy and we. are. done.
Rejection is as much a part of our journey as approval. It hurts, consumes and leaves us wondering if our self esteem will ever be healthy again.
What is rejection? as the old adage says, "Hurting people, hurt people."
Rejection surfaces when we’ve become emotionally attached to a person. We may think it’s our fault that a person dismisses us. Usually it has nothing to do with us, they may be beat down or have complicated circumstances that cause them to isolate themselves rather than involve others in their lives. We never know what’s going on with someone so we must not draw conclusions.
How you respond to rejection will impact your life and the outcome. News flash people: Rejection does not mean you aren’t valuable or important. Handle rejection by keeping it in proper perspective. Dr. Carmen Harra states, "To change our perceived impression of rejection, we must first solidify our self-worth." Is it even possible to solidify our self-worth? YES! indeed it's possible, begin here:
"And remember that the heavenly Father to whom you pray has no favorites. He will judge or reward you according to what you do. So you must live in reverent fear of him during your time here as “temporary residents.” For you know that God paid a ransom to save you from the empty life you inherited from your ancestors. And it was not paid with mere gold or silver, which lose their value. It was the precious blood of Christ, the sinless, spotless Lamb of God. God chose him as your ransom long before the world began, but now in these last days he has been revealed for your sake." (1 Peter 1:17-20 NLT)
The morning I wrestled with rejection I too wondered if I would ever kick the nasty habit of embracing hurt and nursing wounds. I had a choice to make, I could believe that I don’t measure up, retreat behind my walls of protection and have a pity party. Or I could shut up and listen to what the Spirit was saying to me; I heard Him whisper-
"And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free"
As truth flooded my heart I was reminded that we must take hold of Truth! Truth says He loves us unconditionally and He will not reject you on your worst day; He pursues you because He wants to be in a relationship with Y.O.U.
Allow rejection to be a teacher, learn lessons from it and go face first into the next chapter but for heaven's sake don’t get stuck in a pity party, move on.