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  • Rhonda Love

Confessions of a Pastors Wife ~ All or nothing...



"At the root of forgiveness is surrender"

Before writing this blog I spent several weeks ruminating on the statement. I realized I've withheld forgiveness delaying spiritual maturity. I had to allow the Holy Spirit to peel back layers, uproot unforgiveness aimed at myself and heal broken places I didn't want to admit were there. #dontjudgeme

Over the years we've counseled many believers with broken relationships, demanding the right to withhold forgiveness. We can't be ok with unforgiveness! What if Jesus Christ with held it from us? We must surrender for our own freedom; forgiveness set us free. The pathway to healing is to first surrender ourselves to God and then to one another.

Surrender - cease resisting, to give up. It requires a 100% commitment to forgive, 50% will not do.

What’s behind our lack of surrender? Are we afraid to relinquish our hurts and unforgiveness to the Lord? Surrender comes when we let go of control and let God work on our behalf. We don't always have to be in charge. Instead of trying harder, trust more.

Ephesians 4:27 says “give no opportunity to the enemy”. Mama used to say, “if you give the devil and inch, he'll take a mile”. If we don't surrender everything to God the enemy will destroy us. That Genesis 4:7 verse is no joke - "...sin is crouching at your door and it desires to master you."

Surrendered hearts become obvious in relationships when we’re no longer self-serving and demanding our own rights. Jesus Christ is our best example of surrender. He yielded himself to the will of the Father when He went to the cross for the forgiveness of our sin. If we’ve received the gift of forgiveness from Him we should consider extending it to those who’ve hurt us. Forgive yourself while you’re at it.

(photo: grapes in mom's vineyard)