The truth is, I was behaving like a spoiled brat that day, whining and complaining about a situation. As I reflect back on the moment, I really deserved a spanking but what I got was the humor and creativity of a long time friend and accountability partner. She used the Word to correct me.
There I sat, being careless with my words and questioning another person’s motives; I seriously wanted to play the blame game. It feels so good to blame situations on others and dissect their problems, but I really should have been asking myself the question, “what does the Lord want me to learn through this?” or “is what the person saying true?” No, I continued spewing vomit and venomous words. Obviously I was caught up in the emotions of the moment when I realized my friend was trying to flick something off of my face. I finally asked her, “what is on my face?” Her response was, “hang on, Oh! it’s just the log sticking out of your eye.” Well that shut my mouth!
No truer words have been spoken, yet her humor in the moment reduced us both to laughter. Realizing how silly my behavior was and how immature I must have looked, I was embarrassed by my ugly actions and unkind words.
We moved on in our coffee and conversation but later I was reminded that I needed to go back and process it. I needed to deal with the attitude of my heart toward a fellow believer. Please hear me, it would have been easy to hold a grudge (unforgiveness) but I certainly wouldn’t have benefited from it. Holding onto unforgiveness does not hurt the other person as much as it hurts my own relationship with God.
How do we “get the log” out of our eye in order to find forgiveness and unity with one who has offended? Of course, we pray forgiveness and a heart change, but I personally need to go a little further: rather than placing so much focus on their speck, I ask the Lord to deal with my log. By taking the focus off of their shortcomings, I’m allowing Him to purge the ugly mess in my own life.
My dear friends, what will you do about the log sticking out of your eye?
“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”
(Matthew 7:3-5 NASB)